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I was born and raised in the suburbs of St. Louis, MO to farmer-ish parents. I’m married for 15 years to my life partner, Shawn, and a working mom of 3: Cameron, Haleigh and Paige. We attend Grace Church in Creve Coeur, MO. I love photography, repurposing furniture, cooking, eating, and scrapbooking – emphasis added on the cooking and eating.
What has God taught you about trusting Him?
God has taught me – and He wins every single time – that when I let Him take over the wheel, everything falls into place. I equate myself to Fix-It Felix in the movie “Wreck-it Ralph.” His motto was “I can fix it!” Newsflash: I can’t fix it. In fact, I sometimes make it worse. These are the times I try on my own, and don’t solicit God’s help. He says He will never leave us nor forsake us. Why I can’t drive that into my head during these times, I don’t know. But the moment I let go and ask God for guidance, there’s immediate remedy to the situation. He’s taught me to always rely on Him, always bring it to Him first – and it works.
What advice would you give a young bride?
I vividly remember our wedding day, 15 years
ago. From the make-up artist, to the
hairstylist, to exchanging our vows, to dancing to “Living La Vida Loca” at the reception. It was all so surreal – finding my life partner and sharing the day with my friends and family. I use a wedding photo or honeymoon picture as a bookmark when I’m reading, to always remind me of that day.
I would tell a young bride, your wedding day is likely the most vivid and wonderful memory you will ever have. Keep in mind that life brings about changes – there will be good times, but there are also challenges, trials and hardships. Just when you think you’re engulfed in the trials, I pull out that photo from our wedding or honeymoon, to remind me of the vows we shared – in front of God and everybody. There was once a saying “keep your eye on the prize” – my husband is my prize, my gift from God, and as long as I keep my attention on that fact, I know we can get through anything together.
What advice would you give a new mother?
One of the greatest joys in life is being a mother. It’s also one of the greatest pains. You love to see your kids grow – but hate that they’re getting older at the same time. You love when your kids grasp a sense of independence, but hate that you’re not as “applicable” at the same time. There are so many things to tell a new mother!
- Since there isn’t a book written on raising a child, write your own as you go along. Keep a journal. Fill each “chapter” with all the fun and excitement, along with the struggles. This book is uniquely yours – it can’t be published for anyone else, not even any other children you would have. Just as God has made each and every one of us different, so is our story with our children.
- There are do-overs. Be willing to apologize to your child and try again.
- EMBRACE EVERY MOMENT and learn from it – add it to that book you’re writing.
- Carve out alone time with your child. Make him/her feel as though they’re the only person on earth at that moment. This goes well with ice cream, preferably two scoops.
- Pray daily for your child!
What is your favorite verse or quote about being a woman?
Proverbs 31 always comes to mind when I think of the epitomy of a woman. But in 2014, who is taking wool and flax and making garments?? And often times, I don’t know that my children are calling me blessed. But there’s one verse that always stands out – whether for the past, the present or tomorrow – it’s Verse 30: Charm is deceptive, and beauty if fleeting, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised. As long as He stays first in our lives, God has our back!
What woman most inspires you and why?
I’m a huge fan of Maya Angelou – I remember when I first read “I Know Why the Caged Bird Sings.” I still cry when I read it. But this woman, despite her adversities, always persevered, and she has a slew of quotes that I absolutely adore. One is from her poem “Phenomenal Woman” when she recites “I’m a woman, phenomenally, phenomenal woman, that’s me.” Often, I don’t feel phenomenal, but God reminds me, just as He reminded Maya Angelou, that we are King’s Kids, and that in itself is phenomenal. Maya also said “People will forget what you said or what you did, but will never forget how you made them feel.” It’s intentional living at its finest! She also says to women “Let us offer help before we have to offer therapy.” She never seemed to falter, and she spoke openly about her faith. She was not embarrassed by her race or socio-economic background, and revealed how everyone has a place, and to embrace the very place you’re in. She was a class act.
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